A Man’s Life is Hard in Ways a Woman Won’t Understand
Recently there’s been an attack on men. The patriarchy. Toxic masculinity. Somewhere along the lines the signals got switched and it became derogatory to be a man.
Men are finding it harder to navigate the new choppy waters.
But you must look at the cause, and not the effect.
How did we get here?
Although men have it easy in ways that women may never will. I can go for a run alone at 8pm. I can wear what I want to a bar.
Men have it hard in ways women won’t understand either. Men aren’t allowed to cry. We have feelings but they usually aren’t listened to. And with us being under attack, there are less safe spots for us to open up in.
When men are emotionally congested with no outlet, I think toxic masculinity occurs.
Women bare their soul to their friends until morning over a glass a wine, men do not. Our conversations exist around what time we’re meeting up at the gym and about the raise we just got. I would feel uncomfortable, at least at first, if my buddy asked, “are you fulling your potential?” or “what is your biggest fear in life right now?” I’ll save that for a therapist.
The strong silent type runs deep with us. We don’t bare ourselves, at least not to each other. We’re not supposed to feel, we’re supposed to be a man and keep it moving forward.
We save that for our girlfriends and wives. But men seem to have become the enemy and with the war that goes on between us, I wonder where do we go now?
We need each other. Maybe our sometimes-ruthless desire for sex, money, power, status is a man’s way of filling the void that I believe a woman once filled in the past?
Men desperately want to be seen, accepted and understood by our women. Now it seems like we can’t.
Beautiful blonde hair, a cute laugh. That’s great. But beauty is temporary, and sex is everywhere. I think what binds a man to a woman is having an emotional connection with him because it’s so rare and desperately needed for us.
We both need to understand we each have difficult lives but in different ways.
Don’t cut out a men’s safety net when he’s falling. Reach out your arm and help him up. We need it now more than ever.
