Guys: The 5 Things You Must Do on a First Date

For most of us, there is nothing more dreaded than the first date. I once had a girl tell me she took 3 shots of patron before our coffee date at 11 o’clock in the morning.

It can be nerve wrecking, those butterflies right before it. You’re sitting across from a stranger you barely know, eye to eye, trying to be cool but at the same time be interesting. So much runs through your head.

Stop. It doesn’t have to be this way. First dates should be exciting, light and fun. And I believe if you do these 5 things, you will be fine. I am no expert but I’ve probably gone on over 100+ first dates, so this is all coming from my experience — the good, the bad and the ugly.

Here is what I think will put you in the best possible light, while you let fate and the universe work the rest out.

1. Don’t flake and be on time

In a world where no one commits to anything, be the outlier. Women want stability and committing, even to something as simple as drinks at 7pm, shows this.

It’s basic respect and it’s appreciated. First impressions last a lifetime. Don’t fumble in the first play of the game, you’ll have to fight like hell to ever regain possession back.

Sure, life happens, and things come up. If you do have to cancel, do it at least 24 hours before and come up with an alternative time and day.

I will see you at 7pm.

Don’t be late either.

2. Ask Questions

A date can often feel like an interview. Don’t fire off a list of 21 questions, but then again don’t ramble about yourself either.

She doesn’t care about the money you make, the places you’ve gone, or the people you know. That will be discovered in due time.

Walk the line between asking questions and sharing your experience.

Get to know her. What are her likes, dreams, favorite things to do, what’s her favorite monopoly piece? Lol Just have a conversation.

Be engaged, listen, and pay attention. And for fucks sake NEVER take out your phone.

3. Set Boundaries

You should never have a first date longer than an hour. At the tops, 2.Besides, you’ll know within seconds of meeting her if you have chemistry. From the body language, to what the eyes say. We know when we know.

Set the time constraint.

I have an hour.

Dates will drag you after that, and you’ll start reaching for random topics. Get back to your life and don’t show all your cards in the first hand.

4) Lead

While I was in Mexico, I walked past this couple stumbling out of a bar. The girl was infront and the guy was trailing behind. She said “ where are we going”. He said something that still haunts me.

“I’m just following you.”

Guys, it should never be this way.

Women want the leader. Give her options, but then ultimately set the time and place.

From what I’ve been told, I don’t know, what do you want to do? Sounds like nails on a chalkboard to a woman.

5) Pay

I’m old school. I know women are independent and can pay their own way, but at least for the first date, you should take care of it.

6) Go for the kiss

This is the ultimate test.

A kiss is deeper than you think.

The conversation can be great, you can laugh until your abs hurt, but how do your bodies respond to each other?

I believe a kiss is the ultimate test of combability, like a key fitting in the right door.

You will know instantly.

Either the sky will open and you’ll feel fireworks.

Or you will feel nothing. No passion, no spark.

Either way and you won’t waste any more time and you’ll know exactly how you feel about each other after it’s done.