How To Get Over Her.

Studies show breakups hit men harder than women. If only we could take a pill and forget it all. Follow these 3 simple steps as the next best thing. But before you do all that, it goes without saying: Block them. 30 years ago, you broke up and slowly forget about it. Out of sight, out of mind and you went on with your life.

Now, thanks to Mark and Steve, we have instant access in them in our pocket. Greattt. Not only that, but we can see them in live action, we know exactly what they're doing at that exact moment, and it’s all right in our face..

Don’t do it. Focus on yourself. Every ounce of energy directed toward them is an ounce taken away from you.

Now for the steps.

1. Grieve. Fellas, we try to skip this and fuck away our feelings. Girls cry first and we try to get over our ex but getting under a new one. Sit in the pain. Those Sunday nights can get lonely I know. It seems to take roughly half the time you all were together, to heal. So 1 year=6 months of pain, 4 years= 2 years. It’s going to feel weird. My brain doesn’t understand spending all this time together with someone, then suddenly never seeing or talking to them again. It’s a death, so acknowledge the process. Plus there’s a lot of brian chemistry going on and a lot of hormones flowing when share those intimate moments, so you’re literally going through what feels like a drug withdrawal. And since we like to avoid pain, unfortunately this is where we break,… either running back to them and bs’ing ourselves it'll be different this time or replacing the loneliness with another version of them. Don’t be insane and make the same mistakes twice expecting different results. Every Relationships is a mirror and a teacher. There’s a reason it didn’t work. Learn from it and …
2. Get better. I’ll put money on the fact that some part of you was slacking over the time spent together. Slowly you got comfortable or you avoided things at the distraction of them. Circle back and get your shit together. Could be money stuff, career, fitness, ignoring friends. Level up. You’re gonna have painful emotions — fear, anger, resentment, confusion. Harness that energy to break though the next level so you reach new consciousness. Now you’ll….
3. Upgrade. If you followed the steps correctly, you’re a new person and you’ll attract better things in your life because you’re operating on a higher level. New people, new way of thinking. Remember the relationship is an mirror. Here you’ll be unrecognizable to her or really anyone else for that matter. This is exciting. New beginnings hide themselves in ends. After every break up, I always believed “she” was the best, but because I’ve always grown and tried to improve myself, the next girl was even better. Every single time. Time heals all wounds, it will take months or years, depending. It doesn’t seem like it but it gets better. Trust me.

This process is like a roller coaster. Save this to refer back when you’re going thru it. Love is a hell of a drug, I’d argue one of the strongest. Good luck.